Extreme Restraints

Bondage is a term that can be used loosely as to describe a variety of sexual, and non-sexual play. Sexual domination is a consensual and responsible avenue of exploring erotic power exchange. The commonly referred-to abbreviation BDSM stands for bondage, domination/discipline, sadism and masochism as a type of sexual practice as well. However, bondage itself does not include sadomasochism.

Common extreme bondage and/or kinky toys include classic staples, such as blindfolds, handcuffs, whips and crops, while more advanced kinky toys can incorporate more niche items, such as speculums, thermometers and straightjackets for medical play, chastity devices for cock and ball torture, or needles for blood play. Rope bondage incorporates techniques ranging from Western, to Eastern Japanese Shibari, suspension bondage, speed bondage, sex bondage or genital bondage. All of these are not only designed to pleasure both partners, but also incorporate the visual aesthetic as a means for erotic pleasure. Japanese, or Shibari bondage, is arguably the most visually stimulating, using patterns that originated in Japan. An emphasis is placed on how and where the ropes are placed, at times sensually applied on pressure points for heightened sexual pleasure for the submissive. One of the many uses of Shibari range from the creation of a live sculpture, to a shared meditative practice between both partners.

Before shopping for any bondage toy, the first step is having a conversation with your partner/s about what you are willing to try, what your limits are, and who in consensual with what. Second, establishing a safeword that is vocalized when you or your partner are approaching the pain threshold is of utmost importance. Lastly, you must ensure that any restraint device (cuffs, spreader bars, etc.) are easy to remove in the event of an emergency. Cuffs with velcro are idea for beginners, or anyone looking to remain worry-free during the entirety of bondage play. Avoiding positions that will result in asphyxia or impaired breathing are also very necessary safety precautions.

If you are graduating to more extreme bondage scenarios, chances are you’ve experimented with the usual suspects such as cuffs or a blindfold. If you are looking to explore your (or your partner’s) threshold for pain, look into incorporating nipple or clit clamps, where you can control the level of pressure, and determine how much you can tolerate, while still being able to maintain a high level of arousal.

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